Clarity requires truth, not niceness

Stop manipulating people out of fear

Hi Reader,

I love the social media trend of professionals saying "let me hold your hand while I say this" and busting myths common in their field. But I'm not offering to hold your hand here, because you don't need me to.

It is not your job to protect other people from feeling uncomfortable things.

In fact, when you try to control how someone feels or reacts—or even thinks about you—you are standing in manipulation territory. 😳

It is your responsibility to deliver factual and relevant information clearly, directly, kindly, and in a timely manner.

As much as we'd both love for you to be a fortune teller (😍🔮), your predictions about how someone else is going to react to your feedback or insight, are just that—predictions. Guesses.

Here's the kicker: Every time you say you can't give a certain piece of feedback or ask a certain question because of "how the recipient will respond?" You're actually making an excuse to avoid your OWN discomfort. Your own fear or intolerance of someone else's upset...

In the process, you're disempowering the other person. They don't get a chance to hear helpful feedback. They don't get an opportunity to address a mistake or oversight or blindspot. You're withholding valuable insights and perspective.

So, if you weren't afraid of the reaction Reader, what's one thing you're itching to say?

Go say it. Today.

If you don't know how, join me on Friday for my most requested workshop ever! Details below.

Be courageous. Release control of their response and share the valuable insights you hold. You've got this!

Keep growing,
Jamie 🪴💚
& the Grow Nau Team